But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. (James 3:17 ESV)
When God makes a person wise they will also become gentle. This is a robust gentleness, able to be fair and considerate, merciful rather than inflexible.
Being gentle comes from the heart, whether expressed by delicate hands or a labourer’s strength. Fine, dainty hands may be gentle of touch even while the owner of those hands shows harshness of heart by what is spoken.
Whereas a clumsy, ham-fisted person may be truly wise and gentle hearted, dealing kindly with others in both word and deed. I pray that my kids will be like this, showing gentleness and fairness to others.